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Pre-teen angst

So my daughter is 12, and in the 7th grade.  She has a May birthday, so she’s one of the youngest in her class.  This can sometimes lead to drama, because she’s not really old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.  Lately, she’s exercised her ability to showcase that deficit to me.  She’s made some really poor decisions when it concerns a couple of her friends.  I try to understand that peer pressure has a lot to do with it, but on the other hand, had hoped that I had raised her with enough backbone to stand up for what she thinks is right. 

Luckily she did come to me and divulge some of the incidents that happened.  Now, I want us to be able to talk about anything, so I was glad that she decided to share the info with me, but I was trying not to freak out!  I didn’t want to scare her off from ever confiding in me again, but I also wanted to let her know that I disapproved of her behavior.  It was a tough situation to be in!

The next conundrum, if you will, was whether I should tell my friend, and Brooke’s friends mom.  I felt like if it were the other way around, I would want to know.  I really struggled with that, and in the end waited too long and something else happened.  Now, nobody got hurt, but someone could have.  I shared with my friend, and she had a discussion with her daughter.  We both learned a few things that had been lied about, and then we talked to the girls again.  It’s an ongoing process where I am learning, and praying.  Praying for good, Godly friends, and the courage to stand up for what is right.

Conversation

Matthew has been watching a new video in the van called WordWorld, by PBS.  We had just picked Brooke up from dance last night, and I heard the movie spell P-I-E.  So I asked Matthew how do you spell Pie? 

Matthew- I dunno
Zach-well they just told you how to spell it.  Were you listening? 
Matthew- I don’t wanna disguss about it!!!!
Zach- what’s he going to do in Kindergarten when the teacher asks him a question?  Say I don’t want to discuss about it? 
Me- Thankfully we have another year.

Oops

I forgot to mention that I had to pick Zach up from school because he threw up.  So, Yeah!  Lucky me!

Kids are my job

With the start of school came the back to school night, the open house, meet the teachers, too many students enrolled in the 4th grade, 31 to 33 in each of the 4 classes, and a new teacher being brought in.  Can you say chaos?  Oh, and the 7th grader had homework on the first night…not a good sign!  And that was only 3 days. 

Friday night we went to see SUPERHERO, a production by Gregory Hancock Dance Theatre, documenting the last week of Jesus’ life.  It was incredible!!!  Brooke and I had seen it last year, and were moved to tears by it.  We took Brian and Zach with us this time, and cried again.  The performances are so powerful, and 3 of the performers actually teach Brooke in dance.  We are so blessed. 

Saturday was free, and I was looking forward to getting some stuff done around the house, and then just lounging!  My friend Shannon has been talking about this great book, and I’m not gonna tell you the name of it yet, so I was going to the book store too.  Brian and Zach were going to watch some racing at a dirt track, and it was smooth sailing at home for me.  That all changed when Brian said his mom and dad were going to the races too, so we all went. 

I’m used to Zach racing on concrete or asphalt, so the dirt is something to get used to.  I’m not a fan of it yet, but Brian assures me that Zach is ready to race the mini sprint, and that it is much cheaper than quarter midgets.  We’ll see!

Yesterday I helped a friend out with some digital scrapbooking, and did get to read that book.  Ya know, the book that I haven’t told you the name of yet, because it is so good I want to review it here for you, at a later date in time.  Sorry for keepin’ ya hangin!

Laundry was on my list today.  I hate laundry!

Green Tuesday

Have you ever compared the price of a bar of soap and a bottle of body wash?  The body wash is around 4 times more than the soap.  Now I’ve heard that a 16 ounce bottle of body wash will last for 80 showers, but that’s not even close in my household.  Someone uses waaayy too much soap, and we go through it around every 3 weeks.  So that becomes pretty pricey.

They say that a bar of soap will last around 20 showers, but it’s less expensive and there will be less packaging waste too.  Here’s the trivia fact for the day.  If every U.S. household replaced a bottle of body wash with a bar of soap, roughly 2.5 million pounds of plastic containers could be diverted from the waste stream.  That is according to “the green book”. 

Last week I talked about the nylon poufs vs. the loofah.  We have switched over to a little pouch, one side is a loofah, and the other side is a cloth material.  A bar of soap fits inside the pouch, and you just lather it up.  I bought a 12 pack of Ivory soap at WalMart for $2.97 the other day, so I am practicing what I preach.  I must admit I’m not quite adjusted to the loofah yet, as I can’t get lots of bubbles, but we’re working on it. 

What’s up?

Brooke had cheer camp over the weekend, 2 1/2 hours away from home.  The daytime schedule was grueling, but they did manage to sneak in a couple of hours of social time in the evening.  At one point I was trying to talk to her on the phone and it was crazy loud.  I said, “are you guys having a party or what!”?  She just laughed and said “Yeah”.  There were only 2 mishaps.  One, she forgot her spending money, so she couldn’t buy the overpriced $40 t-shirt that said cheer on it.  The other was, she fell and the coach called me.  Apparently she is a flyer, not something I’m excited about, and one of the bases grabbed her leg in the wrong spot, causing Brooke to bend her leg and fall forward.  She hurt her arm, but the trainer looked at it and said there was no fracture.  She took some Motrin and iced it, and all is fine. 

We went up on Sunday to pick her up and see the competition part of it.  I have learned that I’ll need to purchase some earplugs for the games, because I came out of there with a headache.  It was good though.  I can’t believe the stunts they’re doing already.  I’m used to seeing her gracefully dancing on stage, not flying through the air. 

Last night we went to our dance meeting.  It was good, and Brooke is excited at all the opportunities she was offered.  I can’t believe that school is starting in 2 weeks.  Where has the summer gone?  I was looking forward to a more laid back school year, but now I’m not sure that’s going to happen. 

Our garden is doing so well.  I picked our first cucumber the other day, and bell pepper too.  We’ve had several tomatoes, and we have two of the cutest little watermelons growing.  I get so excited when I go out and spot something new growing.

Going Green Tuesday

Did you know that those synthetic nylon bath poufs we use are made from petroleum and cannot be recycled?  Me either!  So if we would use an all natural and biodegradeable loofah, or a plain old washcloth, we’d conserve the energy used to make that nylon pouf and the environmental cost of disposing of it. 

Here’s the WOW factor!  If one in fifty of us would just switch over to the all natural loofah or washcloth, it would save a sponge big enough to soak up almost a million square foot flood of water. 

I think I’ll be switching over to the loofah instead of the washcloth.  I’m just thinkin about all the extra laundry to be washed, and it’s all piled up right now, so I don’t need anything adding to that. 

A few days late

I said I’d be back Monday, but a family vacation happened.  Brian and I flew home on Saturday, so all of us slept in our own beds for 2 nights before we left again.  Brian actually took a week long vacation, and we left on Monday to head over to Kings Island.  We planned on just hanging out in our room and relaxing that evening, but the room was not so nice.  We chose to save $10 a night and opted for the Red Roof Inn, instead of the Super 8.  Note to self-pay the extra $10!  Anyway, we decided to head down the road to check out the Bass Pro Shop.  A good time was had by all, and three out of five of us walked out with new shoes.  HHmmm…..

All of us were hungry, and Wednesday was going to be Brian and my 14th wedding anniversary.  We knew we’d be busy at the parks so we decided to do a nice dinner early.  We found this very nice Seafood restaraunt, and the food was great.  Zach had the fried crawfish, Matthew had catfish, and Brooke had shrimp.  Brian ordered the calamari for an appetizer and we had a little fun with letting them eat it before we told them what it was.  Evil, I know! 

On Tuesday we opened up Kings Island, and left 10 hours later.  Matthew was 2 inches shy of being able to ride most of the big rides, so Zach and Brian paired up and did the roller coasters.  I got away with only riding Vortex, and one of the indoor coasters with Zach.  Matthew kept saying “I love Kings Island!”  He got to meet SpongeBob and Scooby Doo, which was truly a highlight!  There was very little wait time to get on the rides, so I was thrilled with that.  We pretty much walked onto everything except the Rugrats Reptar ride in Nickelodeon. 

The highlight for me was finally getting to do the Xtreme Sky flight.  I’ve always wanted to do it, but never could get anyone to try it with me.  When we walked by and saw the sign that it was only $5 instead of $20, I took that as a sign.  This is where they hook you up, and put you on a zip line that goes up 160 feet in the air, yep that’s 16 stories, and you pull the rip cord and it’s like sky diving and hang gliding.  So Awesome, I’ve always wanted to do it.  I convinced Zach and Brooke to do it with me.  We did have to wait for a while because they only had one side running.  When we finally got close, they started putting the special suits on us and asked who would be the one to pull the rip cord.  Since I was the biggest, I had to be in the middle, so it had to be one of the kids.  Brooke immediately volunteered Zach, and he agreed.  We got up on the platform and they were hooking us all together when Brooke decided she didn’t want to do it.  It was up to Zach and me now. 

We started ascending, and boy was it high!  It took awhile to get all the way to the top, and part of me was thinking/screaming in my head, WHAT ARE YOU THINKING, RISKING YOUR LIFE AND YOUR SONS!!!  But the exhilaration won out, Zach pulled the rip cord, and we were flying.  Flying through the air was so awesome.  We both had so much fun.  What a memory. 

The next day we went to the water park.  Brian, Zach and I all burned the bottom of our feet on the concrete, so that made walking and waiting in line on those horrible rubber mats terribly painful.  Matthew had a blast riding down those huge slides all by himself.  He was making up for being a little short the day before.  We stayed for about 5 hours, then went back to the room for a nap.  Feeling a little rested, we decided to go back to the park until they closed.  The big boys rode the racer and the Beast, while Brooke, Matthew and I made it to the Monster and the Fairly Odd Coaster.  We saw the fireworks and then headed out. 

I was thoroughly exhausted, and so were the kids.  They almost fell asleep at dinner!   We were all excited to sleep in our own beds on Thursday night, even if Brooke and I had to get up early to get her on the bus to cheer camp.  Zach slept in until 10:30 on his 10th birthday, and Matthew didn’t get up until 11:00. 

Summer vacation is coming to an end quickly.  I wish it could go on and on.  It doesn’t seem like we’ve had much time.

Our Mission on Earth

Why are we here?  What did God create us to do?  If you’ve ever found yourself wondering that, please read on.  This touched me today.

Matthew 10:5-42 The Message

Jesus sent his twelve harvest hands out with this charge.  “Don’t begin by traveling to some far off place to convert unbelievers.  And don’t try to be dramatic by tackling some public enemy.  Go to the lost, confused people right here in the neighborhood.  Tell them that the kingdom is here.  Bring health to the sick.  Raise the dead.  Touch the untouchables.  Kick out the demons.  You have been treated generously, so live generously.  Don’t think you have to put on a fund-raising campaign before you start.  You don’t need a lot of equipment.  You are the equipment, and all you need to keep that going is three meals a day.  Travel light.  When you enter a town or village, don’t insist on staying in a luxury inn.  Get a modest place with some modest people, and be content there until you leave.  When you knock on a door, be courteous in your greeting.  If they welcome you, be gentle in your conversation.  If they don’t welcome you, quietly withdraw.  Don’t make a scene.  Shrug your shoulders and be on your way.  You can be sure that on Judgment Day they’ll be mighty sorry-but it’s no concern of yours now.  Stay alert.  This is hazardous work I’m assigning you.  You’re going to be like sheep running through a wolf pack, so don’t call attention to yourselves.  Be as cunning as a snake, inoffensive as a dove.  Don’t be naive.  Some people will impugn your motives, others will smear your reputation-just because you believe in me.  Don’t be upset when they haul you before the civil authorities.  Without knowing it, they’ve done you-and me-a favor, given you a platform for preaching the kingdom news!  And don’t worry about what you’ll say or how you’ll say it.  The right words will be there; the Spirit of your Father will supply the words.  When people realize it is the living God you are presenting and not some idol that makes them feel good, they are going to turn on you, even people in your own family.  There is a great irony here: proclaiming so much love, experiencing so much hate!  But don’t quit.  Don’t cave in.  It is all well worth it in the end.  It is not success you are after in such times but survival.  Be survivors!  Before you’ve run out of options, the Son of Man will have arrived.  A student doesn’t get a better desk than her teacher.  A laborer doesn’t make more money than his boss.  Be content-pleased, even-when you, my students, my harvest hands, get the same treatment I get.  If they call me, the Master, ‘Dungface,’ what can the workers expect?  Don’t be intimidated.  Eventually everything is going to be out in the open, and everyone will know how things really are.  So don’t hesitate to go public now.  Don’t be bluffed into silence by the threats of bullies.  There’s nothing they can do to your soul, your core being.  Save your fear for God, who holds your entire life-body and soul-in his hands.  What’s the price of a pet canary?  Some loose change, right?  And God cares what happens to it even more than you do.  He pays even greater attention to you, down to the last detail-even numbering the hairs on your head!  So don’t be intimidated by all this bully talk.  You’re worth more than a million canaries.  Stand up for me against world opinion and I’ll stand up for you before my Father in heaven.  If you turn tail and run, do you think I’ll cover for you?  Don’t think I’ve come to make life cozy.  I’ve come to cut-make a sharp knife cut between son and father, daughter and mother, bride and mother-in-law-cut throught these cozy domestic arrangements and free you for God.  Well-meaning family members can be your worst enemies.  If you prefer father or mother over me, you don’t deserve me.  If you prefer son or daughter over me, you don’t deserve me.  If you don’t go all the way with me, through thick and thin, you don’t deserve me.  If your first concern is to look after yourself, you’ll never find yourself.  But if you forget about yourself and look to me, you’ll find both yourself and me.  We are intimately linked in this harvest work.  Anyone who accepts what you do, accepts me, the One who sent you.  Anyone who accepts what I do accepts my Father, who sent me.  Accepting a messenger of God is as good as being God’s messenger.  Accepting someone’s help is as good as giving someone help.  This is a large work I’ve called you into, but don’t be overwhelmed by it.  It’s best to start small.  Give a cool cup of water to someone who is thirsty for instance.  The smallest act of giving or receiving makes you a true apprentice.  You won’t lose out on a thing.”

Sums it up for me!

 

Courage

I can remember being my daughters age.  My BFF Amy and I, whom I no longer am in contact with but that’s a whole nother story, would sit and watch horrible scary movies.  Freddie and Jason were on the screen alot.  We’d scream and laugh, cover our eyes and yell at the heroine not to go upstairs! 

I guess you could say I had the living daylights scared out of me, and now I can’t stand to watch that kind of thing.  Give me a psychological thriller or romantic comedy anytime! 

Brooke is into the scary movies now.  She has one little friend who loves to watch them too.  A few weeks ago they saw one, and Brooke slept with her light on for 4 days.  Her friend slept on the floor in her parents room.  We laughed and made fun of them, but I can remember that fear and anxiety.  I struggle with it myself at times. 

When Brian travels away from home for business, it’s difficult for me to go to sleep.  I check and double check the doors to make sure they’re locked.  Every little noise seems amplified, and scary when he’s not here.  I’m alone and even more responsible for the safety of my children.  The night before last I really struggled with it.  And then I prayed for a hedge of protection, and gave my fears away. 

I was once told that the Bible says Do not fear 365 times.  That’s once for each day of the year!  So I just wanted to share some of the verses I found that will bless you wth courage. 

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you.  He will not leave you nor forsake you.”  Deuteronomy 31:6  NKJV

“Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name, you are mine.  When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.  When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”  Isaiah 43:1-2 NIV

So we can choose courage and pray.  Ask God to give you courage, and then trust Him.  Last night I slept much better!