So my daughter is 12, and in the 7th grade. She has a May birthday, so she’s one of the youngest in her class. This can sometimes lead to drama, because she’s not really old enough to make mature and responsible decisions. Lately, she’s exercised her ability to showcase that deficit to me. She’s made some really poor decisions when it concerns a couple of her friends. I try to understand that peer pressure has a lot to do with it, but on the other hand, had hoped that I had raised her with enough backbone to stand up for what she thinks is right.
Luckily she did come to me and divulge some of the incidents that happened. Now, I want us to be able to talk about anything, so I was glad that she decided to share the info with me, but I was trying not to freak out! I didn’t want to scare her off from ever confiding in me again, but I also wanted to let her know that I disapproved of her behavior. It was a tough situation to be in!
The next conundrum, if you will, was whether I should tell my friend, and Brooke’s friends mom. I felt like if it were the other way around, I would want to know. I really struggled with that, and in the end waited too long and something else happened. Now, nobody got hurt, but someone could have. I shared with my friend, and she had a discussion with her daughter. We both learned a few things that had been lied about, and then we talked to the girls again. It’s an ongoing process where I am learning, and praying. Praying for good, Godly friends, and the courage to stand up for what is right.